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some light onto what is going on. I have been on very friendly terms with my neighbour since she moved in next door to me but for some reason she seems to be avoiding me. I know she has started getting very friendly with someone else who is closer to her own age. This other woman is always popping over and I hear the pair of them chatting and laughing together. They can hear me in my garden next door but she no longer calls me over for a cup of tea or a chat. I am starting to wonder if its something which I’ve done to make her behave like this. The other woman does have a partner but he doesn’t really socialize with the two of them and just sits in the front garden on his own drinking wine. I don’t know why my neighbour has suddenly decided to drop me but I know she had another close friend who left to go back to the UK. She dropped this person too as soon as it suited her as she had no further use for her. One thing that bothers me is that I’ve shared many confidences with my neighbour and I am scared she will start telling people about my situation. My husband is back in the UK working and whilst he’s away I’ve been seeing someone else. I am terrified he will find out about my indiscretion if she starts telling everyone my business. I really don’t know why my neighbour has suddenly turned against me like this. Also do you think I’m being paranoid or am I imagining things?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read by problem
Love G

Dear G
No, I don’t think you’re being paranoid & I don’t feel that you are getting the wrong end of the stick here either.  Some friends are known as ‘fairweather’ friends & other friends turn out not to be friends at all!  I think you have just been unlucky in your choice of a friend.  You have become ‘friends’ but really you are next door neighbours.  You have cultivated a friendship as you live in such close proximity of each other.  Also, from your letter I am making an assumption that she is on her own, & you are on your own too.  Again a good reason to spend time together when neither of you have anything  else better to do.  For whatever reason, your friend has decided that she prefers the company of this other woman – maybe she is hoping that this woman’s partner will introduce her to one of his friends?  I think you just have to accept the fact that she has moved on & that you are no longer part of her social life at the moment.  With regard to her sharing your confidences, well if she does divulge your personal secrets to another there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.  Just remember that you have seen the other side to this woman, be wary of getting close to her again in the future & do not give her any personal information about yourself which can put her in a position of power in the future.  If I were you, I’d pretend nothing is wrong, that you haven’t even noticed that she is giving you the cold shoulder, get on with your life & limit any time you spend with her in the future.  I  have drawn you a Meditation card which says ‘Practise positive thoughts & actions today’

that I don’t seem to be able to get on with my life. For the past month or so I have found myself getting very emotional over the smallest of things and find myself bursting into tears for no apparent reason. This is starting to get on top of me and I don’t think I am coping with life very well at the moment. I don’t speak enough Spanish to explain what is going on with me and although I have some friends I don’t have any close friends. My only living relative is my brother who is married and living in America. We sometimes Skype each other but whenever I mention mum he changes the subject. I feel so alone as I don’t have anyone to share my memories with. Each day seems to be getting harder for me and I’m finding myself drinking more. Some days I manage to get through 3 bottles of wine just sitting on my solarium alone. Noone knows what is going on with me and I’m too proud to ask for help. Do you think you might be able to offer some help? Please can you not publish my personal details?
God Bless You Laura A x

Dear A
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.  A year seems a long time ago but in the grand scheme of things a year is nothing.  It seems to be quite a common occurrence for people’s lives to become destabilised on or around the 1st anniversary of a loved one’s passing.  There are a few options open to you.  The most important thing for you to do at the moment is to try & limit your alcohol intake.  Maybe even try to cut out alcohol altogether until this period in your life has passed, & believe me it will.  Alcohol is a depressant so it is doing you absolutely no favours at all other than to temporarily anaesthetise the pain which you are experiencing. August is a month when many Spiritualist Churches close for their summer break.  Ask around & see if there are any spiritualist mediums in your area who might be able to give you a private sitting.  If you mother comes through during this sitting (there are never any guarantees here) that may well help you on the road to recovery.  Try to get out & about, to keep busy.  I would not suggest going down the tranquilizer route but if you feel you really can’t cope then do please make an appointment with a doctor.  Another option would be to have some counselling.  There are a number of private counsellors in Spain & I’m sure if you ask around there might be a free service for ex-pats.  After this 1st anniversary I’m sure things will start getting better for you again.  Don’t worry too much about feeling emotional at this time – it happens to us all at some time or another – it is called grief.  I have just checked on the internet & it would appear that the Samaritans offer ‘confidential support by email’ www.Samaritans.org  I have drawn you a Meditation Card to help you through this difficult period.  It says ‘Focus on love, harmony & positive thinking’

and he is very keen for us to live together and eventually get married. I love him very much but don’t feel ready to make a commitment to him. He is a lovely man and I don’t want to hurt him but I don’t feel ready to settle down yet. What do you think I should do?
From C

Dear C
The Ten of Cups indicates that you are in a very happy space at the moment & you don’t want to spoil things by changing the dynamics of this relationship.  I feel you should explain this to your partner and hopefully he will understand & ease off the pressure.  The 8 of cups indicates that you have various options open to you & you may well be able to reach a compromise which is acceptable to you both.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card which says ‘Enjoy the beauty of the moment’

and was very unsure as to whether the man in question was using me for financial reasons.  As I explained to you at the time I had been conned in the past by a previous partner and was very wary about getting into another relationship.  My new partner as you predicted is completely different and appears to be happy with me and not looking to me to support him.  We both pay our way which I have always insisted on.  My problem now is that I have found this wonderful man and we get on really well and my life has taken a turn for the better and this is the happiest I have been in a very long time.   However, my children have decided to move back home with their partners and my grandchildren which is leaving me feel very unsure what to do next.  Should I go to be with them or should I stay here and live my own life.  I hate that fact that I will not see them on a regular basis but I feel I should do something for myself now.  Am I been selfish?  Your advice would be greatly appreciated as it was been very good to date.   
Thanks again for all your previous help.
Worried BJ

Dear BJ
If all readings were as simple as yours!  You have been fortunate to find love again with somebody new & as you say you have been the happiest you have been for a very long time.  Do not spoil it by throwing in the towel now!  Your children have their own lives to live, their own families to care for & I am absolutely certain they are really pleased you have met someone nice to settle down with.  I am sure this has influenced their decision to follow their own paths as they feel they don’t need to be around to support mum any longer!  She has a wonderful man by her side & they feel able to move on with their lives now without worrying about you & how you will cope if they left.  Put aside the inner turmoil you are experiencing as it is totally unnecessary.  After all,  a flight to the UK is only 2½ hours away & flights are very reasonable to Alicante.  Incidentally, has your man made any suggestions as to how your relationship will be affected by this?   I feel there are pleasant things in the offing for you ahead & the 9 of Cups, universally known as the The Wish Card confirms this.  Take the opportunities which are been bestowed on you vow to make the most of them!  Your family will be just fine in the UK & will be able to get on with their lives safe in the knowledge that mum has someone worthy of her by her side.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card to ponder on.  It says ‘The Angels are with you in your great adventure – life’.  Enjoy!

because I feel I just need some answers. Recently me and my boyfriend have split up. I moved out back to my parents and he told me he loved me but we just couldn’t keep living like this anymore. Our relationship has always been rocky from the start but I just guessed that was the way we were and never imagined he would leave me. I know he finds it very hard to commit to a relationship. But I gave him my all from day one and thought I was finally getting somewhere. It all came as a shock. We had had a very bad weekend. But that was normal for us. One minute he tells me hes good on his own and the next he tells me he just needs time to find out what he really needs. I do truly believe that he loves me and I know I am a very hard person to live with. But I would like to know if there is still a future for us because each day that goes by I am finding it harder and harder to find answers for myself. Do I wait around to see what happens or shall I just completely forget about him.
I hope you reply
Kind Regards L

Dear L
At the moment you are fearing the worst, you feel there is little hope in resolving this issue.  But I feel he will be back in your life again – even possibly before this answer is published!  The pair of you do have the ability to make more of this relationship – you both need to work out what it is that’s causing the problems.  Try to pinpoint what it is that you both argue over & try to work out how you can resolve these issues.  Try to work out what the triggers are, what actions add fuel to the arguments.  Personal relationships, just any other relationship need to be based on mutual respect.  Could you imagine you both behaving  like you do in a work situation?  Of course not!  You’d be horrified if your work colleagues (or even friends or neighbours) bickered the amount you two do!  Obviously the way the pair of you are approaching your relationship is wrong & it is obviously clear that the pair of you do have enough good times together to want to continue your liaison & to try & make it work.  Arguments are not going to solve the problem.  All you are doing is trying to hurt each other which is an expression of how you are both individually hurting in this relationship.  You are taking out your individual frustrations on each other but… nothing is really getting solved.  One or other of you win the battle of the day but not the war.  The war needs to be approached differently & ideally new boundaries will be drawn up & both of you will know exactly what they are.  This relationship is not over yet.  Incidentally, is one of you wanting to relocate?  Is this something you have discussed?  The Ace of Wands tells me there is work ahead of you.  Definitely there is work ahead concerning your relationship but I would not be surprised if there are new work opportunities which will come up also.  Possibly this is one of the issues which need to be resolved?  With hard work from the pair of you I believe you can make this relationship work but please remember, relationships need to have energy put into them & you need to look after them otherwise they crumble.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card for inspiration.  It says ‘A moment taken in reflection can be a lifetime of change’

  I don’t really feel at home in England any longer. The people are so grey and negative. Nothing in their life ever changes. They moan and groan about how poor they are, the immigration, the drugs and prostitution and I feel I can’t take it any longer. If I hear another person winge about their lot in life I’ll scream. Anyway my problem as I see it is do I move back to Spain or do I stay in the UK but move to another area?  My sister lives in Scotland and is always inviting me to stay with her for as long as I wish but we have never really got on that well. I am younger than her and so she has abit of a chip on her shoulder. She thinks I was the one favored as a child and so after a drink or two she can get abit bitter. I don’t really care if I ever see Leeds again either as I don’t have any real friends here either. Spain was lovely but so quiet. Maybe if I moved further north maybe close to Barcelona might be better for me. I am so confused and I feel stuck in a rut with my life not moving forward at all. I am scared that I will be old and alone in the world as I don’t have any children and have never married either.  I have worked hard all my life and now I feel I should be enjoying life but it is not much fun alone. Do you see anyone coming into my life if I stay here? In Spain I didn’t meet anyone even though I joined in all the quiz and bingo nights.
Thanks Laura A

Dear A
Unfortunately you the grass is greener elsewhere syndrome!   You don’t seem to have any real direction in your life & as you don’t have any close family this is making your decision harder.   I see from the cards that there have been potential love interests but you have discounted them.  There seems to be a financial issue around them.  I feel money features very much in your life & I don’t think you would consider being with someone unless they had as much or more money than yourself.  There is a particular man who is present in the cards who I believe has touched your heart but again the Page of Pentacles (Pentacles indicate money) stands in the way here.  The Hermit Card very accurately predicts your present circumstances.  You are alone in the world, alone & lonely.  It also is a card of advice.  Take a moment to think what course of life you could follow which would really make you happy.  Try & pinpoint what it is that makes you so unsettled.  What do you think you could do to make your life more enjoyable?  Do you need to get some new interests in life?  Are there unresolved problems from the past which you are hanging onto & bringing into the present & on into the future?  You are right, you should be enjoying life & you could be if only you could tap into exactly what it is that you feel is lacking.  Once you know that you can take steps to fill it.  There will be times of uncertainty but I feel your life will undergo major changes within the next 5 months.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card which says ‘Broaden your horizons mentally & physically’

}He doesn’t have his picture on the website but he says he’s in a relationship. I have always had a soft spot for J and I am wondering what his intentions are? Do you think he wants to go back out with me? We were childhood sweethearts and now are both in our mid fifties. I have been in a relationship myself for almost twenty years and although I love my partner, I am not in love with him.  He is a good man and has been brilliant bringing up my children over the years but I feel there is something missing.  We haven’t slept together for almost ten years and to be honest I don’t think S would be interested if it were offered on a plate. J was very complimentary in his email. He told me I hadn’t changed at all over the years and that I was still the person he fell in love with all those years ago. I would love to believe him but I am frightened of ruining what I have already got plus S would be devastated. I can’t seem to get J out of my head at the moment as thoughts of him are with me night and day. Do you think I’m being silly letting my heart rule my head? I still feel like the young girl madly in love despite being rounder round the middle and having a few wrinkles.  I would so love to have a fling just to see if the magic of long ago can be rekindled. Am I just being a silly romantic old fool or do you think I should go for it? Can you consult the cards for me to find out what his motives are and whether I should follow my heart?
Many thanks T

Dear T
I don’t think J really knows what he wants.  He has turned his back on something – I believe this to be his existing relationship.  He may well still be with her but I don’t think his heart is in it.  If he could have a relationship on the side, an affair, I think that would give him the best of both worlds.  Meaning he could still be in his relationship & what he’s not getting from his existing relationship he can get elsewhere.  I think he is hoping to come over & see you in Spain & everything will work out just fine.  I don’t feel he will leave the person he’s with so potentially he is very bad news for you.  I have 2 different men showing themselves in the cards – one more solid & dare I say boring?  And the other more dynamic, more the life & soul of the party.  You need to think very very carefully whether you allow J into your life as you could, very easily end up alone in the not too distant future.  Maybe, this is the time to reflect on your existing relationship & see if there is anything you can do to make it more exciting?  The Star would indicate that this is the best way forward for you.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card which says ‘When in trouble ask for guidance from above’

We fell out when my parents died after a car accident. We were both executors of the Will but my brother took control of things and moved into my parent’s house. He told me at the time it would be sold when the market got stronger but this has never happened and now he has passed it on to his daughter and her family. I have heard via the grapevine that he is suffering with bowel cancer and wants to contact me. I don’t really want to have anything to do with him but I am worried that when he goes I will regret not having made some form of peace with him. I feel I would be hypocritical if I saw him as I have nothing good to say about him and have many times over the years wished him dead. I really don’t know what to do for the best and I am worried about Karma. If I don’t see him before he dies then could this have a nasty consequence for me at a later date? Can he in some way get back at me from the other side? I know you don’t know all the answers but your thoughts on this would be much appreciated.
Love B

Dear B
It’s funny how death can bring out the darker side of people’s nearest & dearest!  There are a few ways at looking at this.  If he dies & you didn’t see him then you may well feel guilty for the rest of your life.  If you see him but your heart is not into seeing him then you are being hypocritical & under the Law of Karma you would be notching up a bad point rather than a good point.  Your brother most certainly has notched up bad points for ‘stealing’ the family home.  He has had ample time to rectify the situation – almost 30 years but hasn’t.  If you see him now & offer him forgiveness then he will pass over feeling fine about things but will that help you?  There is also the Karmic Law of Attachment.  Attachment is what it says, it stops people moving forward in life.  In an ideal world we would be detached from all our earthly goodies – but how easy is that?  On another note, your brother has not bothered to make direct contact with you, he has let it be known that he wishes to meet up but has been too cowardly to tell you face to face.  I am sure, during his illness he has had hours to reflect on his life, what he has done right & what he has done wrong.  It seems to me he is suffering from another Karmic Law, the Law of Ego.  From where I am sitting he feels you should be the one to make the first move.  But you too are suffering from the Law of Ego.  You feel, & rightly so that an apology at the very least should be in the offing.  I think your only way out of this Karmic mire is to adhere to another Karmic Law.  The Law of Forgiveness.  If you can bring yourself to detach yourself from the situation, try & understand why he behaved in such an appalling fashion, which was probably shaped from jealousy in childhood,  you are more likely to view him with pity & therefore able to be more compassionate.  Try & view him as a misunderstood child, try & accept that his belief system is his belief system, be that right or wrong, that is what he sincerely believed hence his behaviour.   If you can manage to do this, I think you will be able to see your brother with a clear conscious & open heart.  You will gain Karmic brownie points & you will have helped someone move onto the next dimension more easily.  I have drawn you a Meditation Card for inspiration.  It says ‘Remember to do as you would be done’

  I seem to be getting worse. I would dearly love to return to England to be with my daughter and her family but the climate is not good for me and makes my health worse. I am starting to have problems paying my bills over here and as a result am starting to get depressed. I have been to see the doctor over here who has prescribed diazepam which I think is valium. This seems to make me less anxious but people have been telling me not to take this as it is meant to be highly addictive. Also I have been advised not to drink alcohol with it also. I do feel as though I am in a rut at the moment over here. Quite a few of my friends have returned to England and although I know many people they are not really my type. Do you see me living out my days in Spain or will I return to England?  Whatever decision I make now I realise is going to be the last move I make so I really need to make sure it is the right one for me.  Do you see my health getting better if I move back to England or do you think it will deteriorate?
Thanks Laura W

Dear W
Things are very much in the balance for you at the momenT.  Somehow you seem to get some money to pay the bills but that does not stop you worrying about the future.  Your ill health is also slowing you down somewhat & the medication which you are taking for your depression is possibly hindering you from making decisions for the future.  Your friends are right, Diazepam is a highly addictive drug & you certainly don’t want to be taking it over a long period of time, but in saying that, you must always take advice from the doctor or pharmacist who has prescribed this for you before lessening or stopping the medication.  You need to explore all avenues & you also need to think of the long term implications as well as the short.  Now is not the time for you to make the changes but it the time to formulate your ideas & make plans for the future.  There will be hurdles which you will face & yes, you do have restrictions – namely health & financial but in time, the financial problems will be resolved to a certain extent & you will be free to make the necessary changes to your life.  There are new beginnings for you, you will be in control of your financial destiny & you will start to feel more in control of your life again.  Make sure you start packing your winter woolies!  I have drawn you a Meditation Card which says ‘Thoughts of today may become reality tomorrow’

  to ask you to do a reading for me. I have met a wonderful man recently who has a holiday home on my urb.  We went out a couple of times and shared a few bottles of wine and had a few heart to hearts.  He has now returned back home and since then I’ve heard nothing from him at all. I have tried ringing his mobile number but there is no answer. When I got a friend in England to dial his number he answered so it is definitely the right number. Why do you think he’s not taking my calls? We get on so well and I was beginning to think I’ve met my soul mate. I’ve also sent him several text messages and again had no response. Do you think there’s a future for us?
All the very best J

Dear J
No, I’m afraid I don’t think there’s a future for you with this man at the moment.  He has obviously seen your number coming up on his phone & decided to ignore the calls.  He has obviously seen your text messages & decided to ignore them.  I feel you should chalk this up to having misjudged this person’s character & move on.  Maybe in the future your paths will cross again but this time I’d personally be wary of getting too close.  I’ve drawn you a Meditation Card to help you come to terms with your situation.  It says ‘As one door closes, another opens – go through fearlessly’